It’s not easy to admit when ‘we’re on the rocks’. You’re raising kids and you’re the last thing on each other’s task list.
It’s easy to pose for pictures, pick a filter and get them posted. It’s not as easy to pretend you’re happy when you’re husband seems less interested and your kids literally are plotting against you.
Because who has time to play tit for tat, or getting in the sack, when there are butts to wipe and homework assignments to be done?
It’s easier to go to bed early then to risk being being touched by the partner we love, because you’re tired of being needed or maybe, your breasts are still leaking.
Maybe you don’t share that loving gaze like you did when you were 25; you’re both exhausted with kids, work, and life.
But you don’t struggle over “how it should be” anymore. Because now, you know what you can depend on.
And you know every. single. time. it comes down to “each other”. He’s still the the first thing you think about in the morning; she’s the family’s full time director, stitched with poise and grace.
Part of loving someone is understanding that you won’t always like them; it’s accepting that you won’t always be likable eithier.
It gets better with small battles, and even better with time; it takes commitment through the valleys.
So, don’t fight without saying “I’m sorry”; don’t go to bed without kisses. Never leave the house without saying “I love you.”
It’s totally okay to be “on the rocks”– when the foundation cracks, the house falls down and your love prevails- you will see, that together, you have built a home.